Comments on: Sigh… I’m just gonna ramble… read at your own risk

by: pattydraws

Thu, 07 May 2009 23:30:43 +0000

Peter, Jeff, Danielle, Kate, George & Amanda, thank you so very much for your kind comments. They were very much appreciated.

by: Amanda

Mon, 27 Apr 2009 05:52:44 +0000

Patty,
Oh, honey, I cried reading this post. I am so sorry about your friend. I am praying for you and his family. You loved him enough to make sure you saw him before he died, and I’m sure he understands that. Try to take care of yourself, it is so easy for givers like you to neglect themselves in hard times. ***Big hug** Amanda

by: George

Mon, 27 Apr 2009 00:44:54 +0000

Condolences, Patty dear. I would have liked to have said what Peter said, but he said it first so all I can do is heartily concur. You know that he would have rather seen and talked to you when he could than to have you attend his funeral. You did the right thing and missing the funeral is of little or no consequence.

Be brave and protect and care for yourself. BTW, your boss sounds like a clod.

Love and hugs
George

by: Kate

Sun, 26 Apr 2009 14:07:10 +0000

To see a loved one before they leave us is far more important than the funeral.
Death ends life, not love.
Take care of yourself.

by: Danielle

Sun, 26 Apr 2009 08:15:35 +0000

My condolences Patty. A good thought to write this down; it will help you to cope with your emotions. Worrying about what people might think… please do not do that. You can’t please everybody and besides why should you. In your heart you know that you did the right thing. Take care!

by: Jeff

Sun, 26 Apr 2009 05:35:27 +0000

Im sorry about your friend.I have no idea where the world lost its mind,but Im ready for it to be returned at any time.Funerals are important to the living for closure.While everything didnt exactly fall the way you wanted it to,the essentials have been taken care of,and your other friends dont want you carrying guilt.Especially where none is warranted.Wish I could tell you when its gonna stop for you,but you cant listen to me because I would have thought your cup overflowed with sorrows a long time ago.Forget about the extras.Take care of what you need to.Just give your friends a holler every once in a while so we know youre still alive.

by: Peter

Sat, 25 Apr 2009 08:24:34 +0000

PS Please get your scanner up and working. My wife and I first stumbled on your drawings several years ago and immediately sensed the quality of your work. If there are a few more waiting to be scanned … Great!

by: Peter

Sat, 25 Apr 2009 08:20:47 +0000

You did the right thing. I have always felt that it is a terrible waste when people make a huge effort to get to the funeral of someone they didn’t manage to visit before they died. The huge inconvenience you put yourself to was for your friend and, believe me, he knows and appreciates it.

Yes, funerals are important, but they are social support structures for those who are still here, not for those who have passed on.

The trip you made was the right one - don’t beat yourself up over missing the funeral - you’d probably find it a dissapointing anti-climax. Keep your memories of your friend alive and precious.