Self Spanking
Tuesday, August 29th, 2006Self Spanking
I got a question in e-mail a while back that kind of got lost in the shuffle and now I can’t find the mail to answer it. “What’s the best implement for self spanking?” It’s funny how inhibited I was about this topic even though it’s been something I indulged in even when I had an active spanking life. I’ll never forget the first time that I discovered that bolster pillows on top of the ottoman in my bedroom make a great lap. I’d just gotten a whole bed *ensemble* from Laura Ashley … oooo la de da. Lololol! Yeah, I know, very hoity toity. I’m over it now, my decorator materialistic phase. It did make for some tense times, voiciferous discussions and a very hot bum more than once, and it also led me to make that self indulgent discovery.
I put the pillows on the ottoman while I made the bed, and as it happens I let my mind wander in a libidinous direction while I toiled. I wasn’t quite in the mood to ask for a spanking or earn one, but I was in the mood for a little stingy fantasy. When I started putting all my frilly stuff back on top of the bed, I noticed the bolsters the way I’d placed them, side by side so they just fit on top of the upholstered foot stool. I’d been bent over that piece of furniture many times, and being bent over was on my mind in that very naughty and quite needy way as I noted what those bolsters looked like the way I’d subconsciously placed them. So, I leaned down over them to test my thoughts. “Oh my! Almost perfect.” Then I needed an implement since my hand is useless to make use of that energy.
At that time the only things I’d tried were the wooden spoon and our first bath brush. The spoon was better because it was a bit longer than the brush. Both were better than the belt which is hard to wield in proper spanking positions. I tried the handle of the leather dog leash once, it was too intense … thin, thick doubled over sturdy leather.
I’ve discovered that position matters as much as the implement when it comes to self administered spankings and their relative effectiveness, and there are some positions that I won’t try (diaper position for example.)
The belt, any long leather strap and a cane or switch have to be used standing up if you want to make the sting real. Personally I find that they hurt too much right off the bat if you wield them with enough swing that they land right to be even a little bit sensual. If you want instant pain that you really can’t control, because of the swing you have to impart, to get the implement to land on your butt and not stray or flop uselessly, and you are ok with having to stand to self administer, then a one inch belt, a half inch handle end of a leather dog leash, a thin schoolmaster Amish harness type strap or a fresh cut thin and flexible switch will do it. You have to swing from the front and let it wrap. Take my word for it, or test it yourself, you can really make it hurt, I’ve just never been able to do it for more than a few licks, and it hurts too much to be what I usually want when the spirit moves me to self spank.
Ordinary hairbrushes are pretty fair. The plastic hollow kind sting a lot but are noisy (not my favorite), wood is only as good as your arm. The longer the handle and the broader the impact surface (up to a point – too wide and you loose impact with a self swing), the braver you are, the more you can build it up to reasonable spanking intensity. On the bed over pillows is the best position I have tried for shorter implements like cracker barrel paddles and hair brushes. The cracker barrel paddle is probably the most ouchie and effective when used for self application when you’ve mounted yourself over pillows on your bed. The wooden spoon or spatula is also good in this position. I once spanked myself to the point of deep bruises that I felt for several days using the handle end of a wooden spoon … of course I’d built up to it and extended my fantasy quite gradually as my wrist got meaner and meaner. Coming while self spanking especially when you take your time and really build it up, can be extremely intense by the way.
My favorites when it comes to building up to a long session that leaves a long burn and can be felt when sitting later, are the Vermont country store bath brush or the *brat paddle* given to me by the readers of my old blog. The bath brush is just a bit more than a foot long, broad & heavy enough that your wrist can deliver a nasty whack (but one you can control) without the swing you need for shorter implements. I’ve actually made myself cry with it. The leather *brat* paddle (made by London tanners) is a perfect length for swinging using your wrist. These two, the wooden spoon and some heavier paddles like Jokari are best used bent over the edge of your bed, on your hands and knees on your bed, over bolster pillows on an ottoman and over the arm or back of a hip height surface like a sofa arm or back.
So what’s the best implement for self spanking? I guess I have to say the *brat paddle* an ordinary wooden spoon, the cracker barrel paddle and the Vermont bath brush. Best positions? Over pillows on your bed (perfect for realizing the full effects of the hip movements most of us can’t help when self stimulation is a needful thing) or over bolster pillows on an ottoman (if you want that lap feeling) or over the arm of a sofa.
I’m a wimp when it comes to instant pain but when warmed up, I last for a long time and can take increasing intensity so that after I’m often surprised by how hard I let things get. The fact that I only self spank for sensual needs and use fantasy to fuel it says a lot there. Actually getting punished is so much different, something I just don’t have the hchutspah to even try to replicate.
Hope that answers questions….
That time I first discovered the bolsters on the ottoman? What? You actually want me to tell you how I went and got the wooden spoon pulled my pants down leaned back down over the bolstered ottoman and started spanking myself and then as I was just about through and had switched to masturbation got caught with my red butt in the air? Man o Man! That was a cringing though particularly delicious moment…. As I said, I’ve self spanked since I was a teen - kept it up even when I cried about my lot having a cruel husband who spanked – even after I woke up to my luck and needs, and yes I still do it now….
